Tuesday, April 9, 2013

About a week ago I was contacted by a young woman on Facebook who graciously shared her the story of her unplanned pregnancy with me. I was so moved by this young woman's story that I asked her if she would be willing to share it here at A Voice for Hope and she graciously agreed. Here is her story in her own words...


I came across A Voice for Hope on Facebook after a post was made on the Governor of North Dakota’s Facebook page. The state of North Dakota in the past few weeks has been making national headlines as Governor Jack Dalrymple recently signed three pro-life bills. These bills in the eyes of those that are pro-choice feel like they take away the rights to choose from the women of this state. I personally do not see it that way. These bills are fighting to give rights to the so many innocent children that before wouldn’t have had any rights. They help give a voice to the unborn. I am 100% pro-life. I remember being in high school and having conversations with my friends whether abortion was right or wrong. My stance is it’s wrong no matter the situation. All babies deserve the chance to be brought into this world. God has a purpose for that baby and they should be able to show us why God created them. 

I have seen the statement put out there that, “until you’re actually in the situation of an unplanned pregnancy, don’t say you wouldn’t have an abortion”. Well I can say that I have walked in those shoes and my outlook on abortion did not change. 

Let me tell you all a little about myself. My name is Kelby; I’m 25 and live in Minot, North Dakota. I grew up in a small town in North Dakota and have lived in the state my entire life. I have an amazing family. My parents have been married for 33 years and I also have two older brothers. My eldest brother has two daughters that are 6 and 22 months. Our family is Catholic and my parents have always stressed the importance of having God in our lives and the morals and values of the church. I like any other human am not perfect and have made mistakes. 

On January 26, 2012 I found out I was pregnant. I was instantly in a panic as the circumstances around my pregnancy were not the best. I remember I called a good friend of mine and told her I was pregnant. She offered to take me the four and half hours to Fargo, ND to have an abortion. I would be lying if I said I didn’t think about it, but those 15 seconds passed and I remembered my beliefs. I knew that having an abortion would not solve anything. It would only cause more issues. I can’t imagine having to live with the guilt that I killed my unborn child. To keep it a secret because I would never have been able to say, “hey mom and dad! I killed your grandchild”. I was the one that had unprotected sex and I was accountable for the life that I had created. I knew I had two choices either raise my baby or place the child for adoption.

When I told my baby’s father I was pregnant he instantly told me I needed to get an abortion and if my choice was to keep the baby that he would not be a part of its life. The first three months of my pregnancy I was faced with the hardest decision of my life. My mom had suggested I speak with someone at the church. I had been researching different adoption agencies online and found out about Catholic Charities of North Dakota. I contacted them and they set me up with a counselor to speak with. This is an amazing organization. They’re focus is not only on adoption, but also helping mothers who plan on raising their baby.

I met with my counselor once a week for a couple months. I had told myself I wanted to make my decision before finding out the baby’s gender. A week or so before I was scheduled for my baby’s gender ultrasound I just knew in my heart I could not place my child for adoption. That Sunday I was at mass and during the priest’s homily he said something that reassured me that I was making the right decision. The moment he said it I wanted to take my phone out and put what he said in it so I could remember, but I knew it would be inappropriate. And now to this day I can’t remember what he said, but I just knew I had this overwhelming feeling of peace with the decision I had made.

The following Friday I found out I was having a little girl. That Sunday I told her dad that I decided that I would be raising her. He told me that he wanted to be a part of her life as well. I understand there are women that aren’t as fortunate as me to have the father of their child be supportive. I guess God was looking out for me and gave him a little kick from above. On September 22, 2012 our beautiful daughter, Leightyn Marie, was born. 

She was and is absolutely perfect! Her dad and I both feel so unbelievably blessed to have her in our lives. He and I now have a great relationship and he is one of my best friends. Again, I feel like God was looking out for me and that there is truly a purpose that our daughter is in the world.






A couple weeks after Leightyn was born her dad and I were talking and he told me that he completely regretted ever asking me have an abortion and if he could take it back he would. Our daughter is truly the light of both our lives. 




It just saddens me beyond belief that anyone would choose to end the life of a child before they even get the opportunity to take their first breath. Just looking at my daughter and seeing her smile can make a horrible day seem great. A child is an amazing gift from God. I just pray that other women that are faced with an unplanned pregnancy see what a horrific thing an abortion is and choose life for their child.






1 comment:

  1. Beautiful testimony! It is always heartening to see how many good people there still are.

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